As much as we love our wonderful children, there are things they do that can really get under our skin. Fighting with their siblings, not listening to us when we ask them to do things, and whining when they don’t get their way are just a few of the troublesome behaviors kids can exhibit as they learn and grow. Many of these behaviors are just a normal part of growing up, testing the waters, and learning how far mom or dad will let them go and what they can and can’t get away with. It’s our job as parents to correct behaviors like these and teach them the appropriate way to behave and express themselves as individuals.
One situation that can be really hard to deal with as a parent is when you have a particularly whiny kid. This is a child who is hell bent on getting their way or the highway. A child prone to this behavior will complain and whine when they don’t get what they want, when they’re trying to get your attention, or sometimes for no real reason at all. Knowing how to stop kids from whining can help save your sanity!
Whining, while difficult to endure as parents, can be corrected with a few small changes at home, and we’re sharing 7 of our favorite sanity-saving tips for moms to teach YOU how to stop kids from whining below.
Take a Deep Breath
Few things can get under your skin after a long day like the sound of a high pitched, continuous whine from your child. Your first reaction might be to snap back at your child, but this does nothing but add fuel to the fire. When your feel your blood pressure starting to rise, take a deep breath, gain control of your emotions, and take inventory of where you are in that moment. Set a good example by refusing to let your child’s whining upset you, and remember that whining isn’t necessarily a reflection on you as a parent, but rather a normal part of a child growing up. Knowing this can help you to pull back, gain composure, and be proactive instead of reactive.
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Assess the situation
Figuring out how to stop kids from whining often boils down to one thing: knowing the reason they are whining in the first place. Are they tired from a long day at school? Are they hungry? Have there been changes in your home recently that could have them feeling extra emotional? When your child is acting out, try to figure out what he needs in that given moment so you can address the root of the problem and put strategies in place to ensure the behavior doesn’t happen again.
Connect with your child
If your child is whining, but you can’t figure out a solid reason behind his behavior, he may just be trying to get your attention. Instead of reprimanding him or leaving him to scream and cry in his bedroom, take some time to engage with him and fill his attention bucket. Set aside 10-15 minutes each day to spend some uninterrupted quality time together and see if it helps reduce the amount of whining he engages in each day. You might be pleasantly surprised!
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Stand your ground
One of the easiest ways to get a child to stop whining is to give in to his demands, but this only reinforces his bad beahvior and complicates things further. A better option is to stand your ground, no matter how difficult that may seem and how big a scene your child is making. This not only allows your child to understand who’s boss, but it also lays the groundwork for what your expectations are in the future.
Use consequences appropriately
Unlike punishment, which is aimed at making a child suffer in retaliation for inappropriate behavior, consequences can teach children responsibility, accountability, and problem-solving by providing an opportunity for them to learn from their mistakes. To be effective, consequences must be used immediately following an undesirable behavior has occurred and they must be appropriate for the situation and age of the child. Make sure not to blow things out of proportion, and always follow through!
Don’t forget to take some time to model and practice appropriate behavior so your child is equipped with the tools he needs to behave appropriately in the fture. Role playing offers a great way for you to teach your child the language and strategies he needs, and offers a fun way to address undesirable behavior before it escalates.
Figuring out how to stop kids from whining may seem difficult and overwhelming – wouldn’t it just be easier to give into their demands?! – but when we remain calm, address the underlying behavior, connect with our children, use consequences wisely, and provide opportunities to practice, we are setting our children up for long-term success by equipping them with thei skills they need to interact with and foster relationships with others.
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